SWITCHING

Until I actually got a few spankings, my fantasies never included spanking a man.  But then one of the guys I met with was interested in switching, and I liked it.  I found it fun to be the one in control (in control on the surface, at least).  I liked being bossy! And I liked the weight of a man across my lap. I enjoy being spanked by hand more than with  an implement, and I found I liked giving hand spankings best too.  I like that skin on skin feeling.

Often my spanking friend and I would switch back and forth between spanker and spankee multiple times in a day.  This wasn't a problem for me, but if I was looking for a more disciplinary spanking it might have been.  I didn't really get that thrill of apprehension with a lot of switching.

I just started writing four interconnected stories about four friends who share a birthday decide to visit a brothel for women to celebrate their thirtieth.  I was planning for them all to decide to get a spanking, but now I think I'll have one of them give one (well, and maybe get one too, since it's her birthday and all!)

ASKING FOR A SPANKING

That's the topic for today.  And the title of my first story on Amazon.  http://www.amazon.com/ASKING-FOR-A-SPANKING-ebook/dp/B006BHU3U8/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1322148436&sr=8-2#_
I'd love to hear any thoughts on the cover image and description of the book. 

So, when I decided I wanted to move from fantasizing about getting spanked to actually getting spanked, I had to basically ask someone for a spanking.  I was using personals for people with the same inclinations, so it wasn't that weird.  There were people on there asking to give spankings, so...

Still, it was strange and somewhat uncomfortable having those initial conversations.  Some guys wanted to leap into role-playing in the first phone conversation, picking up on something I'd said and saying it showed a lack of discipline.  Since I hadn't ever done any kind of spanking play, it was hard for me to go there so fast.

One guy only wanted to meet up with me if he  could be the first one to give me a spanking.  He was so insistent, that I backed off.  The first person I met with I chose because we were able to talk about what we expected, and I got that "safe and sane" vibe.  It worked out well.

Anybody want to tell a story about asking for it--either giving or receiving?

MAINSTREAM SPANKING

Before I read spanking stories, I was always thrilled to find a spanking scene in a romance novels.  There are two I still remember, and its been years since I discovered them.

In ONCE A PRINCESS by Johanna Lindsay, the hero, angry at the heroine, starts to give her a spanking, then the mark (birthmark, tattoo, mole?  that I don't  remember) on her bottom tells him she's the princess he's been sent to find. 

In LADY BE GOOD by Susan Elizabeth Phillips, the hero, who is on the geeky side, has had enough and gives the heroine a spanking.

I reread both these scenes many times.  Anyone else have a mainstream spanking scene they like?  Here's an extensive list of possibilities from CF Publications.  http://www.cfpub.com/indexstories/bibliography.html

CRYING--THE OTHER SIDE

I didn't even think about writing about how I feel about crying as a spanker (I like to spank and be spanked).  It didn't even occur to me.  Clearly, having a man cry over my knee isn't something I think would add to the experience for me, or it would have been something I'd have thought about. 

In the spankings I've given, there have been no tears. It's not that I don't spank hard.  I've been told I'm a hard spanker!

Any guys out there who have cried during a spanking?  Did it enhance the experience.

CRYING?

One of the first prospective spankers I talked to asked me if I envisioned crying during a spanking.  I found this off-putting, maybe because I disliked the idea of him wanting to hurt me so much I cried.  Is it about inflicting pain though?  Or is a different kind of satisfaction for the spanker--and spankee?  Is it more of an emotional release?

I've never come close to crying during a spanking, but all my spankings have involved role-playing.  I wonder if I was spanked for something I really did feel ashamed about or guilty for if that would bring me to tears.

REAL LIFE VS. FICTION

Hi.  This is my first blog post.  I've just started writing romantic spanking stories, and I was thinking about how what I like to write and fantasize about doesn't exactly match up with what I actually like to experience.

I just wrote a story called Asking For A Spanking.  Katy, our intrepid heroine, is feeling out of control in practically every way.  She doesn't eat right, doesn't follow her budget, is late everywhere she goes, doesn't exercise, lets her laundry pile up, stores dirty dishes in her stove, and sometimes isn't as respectful as she should be.  Desperate, she approaches her neighbor, Elliott, a cute, ultra-responsible college professor, and asks if he'd be willing to spank her whenever she doesn't meet her goals.  He agrees, and Katy ends up (yeah, pun intended) getting spanked with his hand, his hairbrush, a ruler, and his belt.  I found it exciting to visualize and write these scenes.

But in real life, the idea of being whipped with a belt is really scary, and not sexy.  I like long over the knee spankings that start over my clothes and work their way down to bare skin with some rubbing along the way. And sometimes I like a fast, hard spanking, with clothes and panties yanked off right away. I've had play discipline spankings (hand and paddle) but no real ones.  Sometimes I think I'd like to experience a truly disciplinary spanking, but still not with a belt!  Maybe with the hairbrush.  Ruler, hmm...

So, gentle reader, if you're there, what do you think?  Can you take (or give) more severe spankings and even enjoy them in your fantasy live than in reality?