One of the first prospective spankers I talked to asked me if I envisioned crying during a spanking. I found this off-putting, maybe because I disliked the idea of him wanting to hurt me so much I cried. Is it about inflicting pain though? Or is a different kind of satisfaction for the spanker--and spankee? Is it more of an emotional release?
I've never come close to crying during a spanking, but all my spankings have involved role-playing. I wonder if I was spanked for something I really did feel ashamed about or guilty for if that would bring me to tears.